Parenting is not for the faint of heart. It can be very hard and challenging. It can also be the most rewarding thing you will ever do.

With our kids home with us every day, parenting is what we do all day long. Now more than ever is when we need to press in and engage with our children. Not just fix the behavior but get to the heart of the behavior.

Before we had kids, I always dreamed about what it will be like. I thought we would have this amazing neat and clean home. Windows open smelling the freshly cut grass while my children are playing nicely on the floor. Our children would always say yes mom and dad, pick up when told to without asking twice, clean the table off as a family and then sit down in the living room to hang out together before bed. This is the picture perfect family, right?

Then you have your first child and realize that’s not too far off but not exactly what you dreamed of. Then you have one or two more and realize that dream you had is definitely just a dream.

Kids are messy, wild, throw tempertantrams, and always think their way is right. Correction is needed, but you have to get to the root of what is going on or it will just continue to happen. If you pull the weed and don’t pull the roots it will just keep coming back.

I had to look at their heart instead of just trying to correct behavior in the moment. Proverbs 4:23 says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” I needed to see what was going on in my child’s heart and teach from there. What is in their heart is what will come out in their actions. Beginning with the heart is where you will see true change.

In a book I am reading called *Shepherding a child’s heart*, It says this, The heart is the wellspring of life. Therefore, parenting is concerned with shepherding the heart. You must learn to work from the behavior you see back to the heart, exposing heart issues for your children.

I have attached a link for you to read a little more about what Tedd Trip says about Shepherding a child’s heart. It’s really good and I encourage you all to read it. There is also a link to the book I have been reading if you are interested.

I hope this blesses you and your family as we raise children to have a heart more like Christ.

Love Pastor Jen

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